Circular or rectangular tables? It doesn’t sound like that big an issue, but one thing I have learnt from interloping through the wedding world is that tiniest details are matters of greatest controversy.
I decided we’d have round tables. I went to a wedding with round tables. The balls I’ve been to had round tables and in this picture of the town hall they have round tables, which look pretty:
But then I recently came across this picture of the same room set up with rectangular tables:
The Fiance went to a wedding recently with long tables, and Somerville always had long tables for hall… but we’ll stick to round – we did decide on round (and more importantly, the table runners have been cut).
Our decision was fairly straightforward, partly because we found it fairly trivial, but believe me, I was tensed and ready for battle.
There areso many controversies with tables. Not just their shape, but where they are in the room (too near the buffet, loud people, or people they don’t like), whether anyone is sitting in front of a table leg (surely unavoidable most of the time?), whether there is a top table (we have one; he wanted one) and who is on it.
Seating plans can also be a nightmare. We decided to fit 79 people onto 9 tables rather than 8 to ensure that everyone was sitting with someone they knew or someone they might get on with and to keep groups together where possible, or divide them into big happy chunky portions who might get on with the rest of their table, whilst able to lean back and poke So-and-so who was sitting at table 8.
Top tables have always been controversial because of deciding who to put on it, especially with extended family or step family, with +1s, odd numbers and who is doing the speeches. A lot of brides and grooms don’t like being on display, not having someone opposite to talk to, having to sit with certain guests and having a lot of junk like a flower arrangement or ‘Mr & Mrs’ signs cluttering up the table in front of them. These are all things you should take into account, try to keep everyone happy and basically just pick something sensible and easy. Tables will not change your day.
Some couples cut the chase and have a special sweetheart table, but this doesn’t appear to be very popular. Others have a migrating bride and groom, with a place set for them at every table. Personally, I prefer the German tradition of visiting each table for a shot during the meal, which at least involves everybody and not only those lucky enough to be seated beside them.