I had a browse at invitation styles online and through a few free brochures and quickly decided what I liked. I created a mock-up using scrap paper and card to show Guy the shape and work out the sizes, and he approved of the plan (oh, he did not know what he had agreed to!). It was also a practical design – I didn’t want bits of paper falling all over the place, but I wanted it to be easy for guests to read and search for information through. In hindsight, I should have bought some thin magnets you can cut and put those on the backs so that they could be pinned to fridges!

We bought some blue card off ebay and hammered ivory paper from Ryman’s (shiny paper does not do it for either of us) and wrote a template on OpenOffice.

We had three pages tucked into a pocket; the front one was Dress: Sharp Suits and Dashing Dresses and included a scanned in picture of fancily-dressed gentleman and lady: the premise of this was a nice picture and to warn the women to wear shoes they could dance in and get between the venues in. If nothing else, I warned them. We also told them the bridal colour, because some people worry about this (I really didn’t mind what colour people wore, but I didn’t want people calling up to ask and/or fretting over it).

Behind Dress was Location: a map of Oxford I drew showing the station, Somerville and the Town Hall

(it is labelled on the invitations), which was scanned in and contrast-enhanced using Photoshop.

And at the back was the Invitation sheet with an RSVP slip at the bottom. Once the RSVP slip has been cut off, the Invitation with all of it’s information fits comfortably as the front slip rather than the back – you see, we thought about these things!

Wording of the Invitation page:

Ms C S

requests the pleasure of the company of

Mr/Miss/Mrs/Ms Guest

at the wedding of her daughter
Rowena Lucy
Mr Guy Antony Fletcher-Wood

to be held at 11am on Saturday 19th May 2012
at Oxford Town Hall

Please arrive 20 minutes in advance to be seated.

RSVP by 14th February to Ms C S,
Street Address, Area, City, Postcode

If you wish to bring a gift, we have set up an online gift list which you can access using the list reference number ##### and password ****.

You may find the list at Please contact Kay on, or 07#########, if you have any questions.


Mr/Miss/Mrs/Ms Guest
will/will not be able to attend.
Meat meal? Y/N Alcohol? Y/N
Other dietary requirements? ………………………………

So we set up a production line. Guy struggles with scissors because he’s left handed, but I had a little ruler guillotine which cuts much straighter edges. However, I wasn’t that great at aligning it so as to cut perfectly down the middle of a pencil line – and he was. So Guy spent hours and hours loading paper into the printer and cutting the sheets I printed into the various slips of paper and one nametag (because there was a little excess space and I just couldn’t bear to waste it).

Guy definitely did more work on the invitations than I did: my job was making the pocketfolds and using double sided sticky tape to attach the cranes.

I also used our homemade wax stamp to stamp a seal on the backs of the envelopes and wrote on all the addresses neatly.

The finished products!

One things I didn’t do on the invitations was put down the finish time – this was a silly mistake, and a lot of people contacted us to ask about it so that they could book trains and plan their day. People actually started trailing out after the meal had finished (being very apologetic about it, not that we cared as they’d stayed for the important bits: skipping two hours of socialising was fine by me!) and other went on to further partying that night.

We had about 85 invitations in the end, seven or so for overseas and including our own, which we made first and sent through the post with a second class stamp to see if it was okay and would reach us without complaint, a trick I had learnt from the forum! It was very exciting receiving an invitation to our own wedding, and we opened it with a letter opener so as to leave the seal in tact!

All our invitations

We carefully chose an RSVP date well in advance of the wedding, but gave 6 weeks to reply by. Nearly 25% of people failed to make this date, and when asked, many of them assumed we’d know, or assumed they could tell us when they felt like it or just turn up on the day!!! Some of those who didn’t reply in time were making profound efforts to make the date against all odds, but others couldn’t make up their minds or couldn’t be bothered to send back the slip. This made me very unhappy, as obviously we were paying a lot of money for these people to enjoy our wedding and had chosen people whom we respected and thought respected us. A few RSVPed yes and then didn’t turn up on the day at all. And these circumstances are, it seems, far from unusual at weddings.

And so, in the honour of our lovely guests…

Stupid Things Guests Have Asked

Do you have a gift list?

Um, yes we do actually. The details for it and a contact to ask questions about it are provided on your invitation.

Where do I send my RSVP?

Okay, so if you look at your invitation… there’s an RSVP ADDRESS. Where it says “Please RSVP to…”

Where is the wedding?

Asked by an usher!

It turns out that her mum had perloined the invitation… So obviously, instead of asking her mum for it she Skypes me to ask the details, which she can’t write down because of bad RSI.

I thought the wedding was next Saturday?

No. This Saturday. The 19th.

Another usher!

Sorry I missed your wedding.


We haven’t got married yet…

I thought it was in February?

No, that’s the RSVP date!!!


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