I thought I would take this opportunity to plug my gift list site. I’m very happy with it: it’s free, easy to use, and allows us to add gifts from anywhere online (so sadly no gifts from Poundland or Atkinsons, but it covers most avenues). It’s only downfall is that it’s pink.
marriagegiftlist.com (what was that? MARRIAGE, not wedding???) allows you to link to a page, select a picture from that page (for sites that don’t work you can download a picture and upload to marriagegiftlist.com from your computer, write in how many you want and how much they cost, and even rename it if you want to.
This fun function has led to “Egg Prick”, “Cock and Hen Divided Serving Bowl”, “Runcible Spoon”, “Beastmaker” and a few other treasures.
It’s live from the moment you start adding gifts. We can log on as a couple and see if anybody has bought anything (but not whom it was bought by until after the wedding date), write and edit the interface the guests will see, preview it as they see it and add or remove or repair links to gifts as we see fit. The guests can log on using the gift list ID and our emails, see what’s still available and how many we want, as well as our personal message. We can choose an interface for the guests, and they do have the option of ones which are not pink (hurrah!).
We’ve appointed a Gift List Manager to help guests with queries or problems, so we don’t know who bought what if they want to keep it as a surprise until after the wedding, and so we don’t have that extra bit of admin to worry about. We put her details in our invitations and they also appear on the site.
Not being tied to a shop, our imagination is the limits, and has led to the inclusion of some rather bizarre gifts, such as the archery kit (which we really really want, but nobody seems interested in), a toilet seat (which went in a flash) and a catnip mouse for our little Iris (which was very much appreciated, and is now bought).
We have a range of gifts from £29.99 ex postage to £1.10 for some kitchen bag clips (bought!). We know who a lot of the gifts are from, but not all of them. Some have sent them to our house, but not all of them. We even had to stop ordering parcels to our house so that we didn’t get confused with gift list items!
We have lived together for over a year. We do have a kettle, microwave, et cetera, but we’re still a young couple starting off and there are lots of things we want for our house, for our leisure or for our amusement – but not everybody realises you need egg poachers – so a gift list has come in handy, especially one which allow for such eclecticity.
On the other hand, I’m aware that asking for money for the honeymoon is popular, but fraught with the usual faux pas, awkwardness and possibilities for offence. People like buying you THINGS. They (mostly) don’t mind lists and being directed what to buy for you, as they still get to choose and don’t have to use much brain space.
Cheesy little poems in invitations on the plea of please give us cash are common. Some people set up a paypal system or website. Personally, I’m not so keen, as I feel to actually make a difference I would have to contribute more in cash (say, fifty quid plus) than I would spend on a present (maybe ten to twenty – twenty if we’re buying as a couple), and this would make me feel like the couple had higher expectations of me and were being a bit rude. So they would probably get a pretty card and a box of chocolates from me. But at least I wouldn’t buy them a toaster.
So this is why I wanted to show you this idea – a “Honeymoon Gift List”. I hope the lovely couple I have stolen this from won’t mind – it was originally posted up in a public forum, so I don’t suppose they will. In the linked example, Tom and Abby used Our Dream Honeymoon to create a list where people can “buy” experiences for their honeymoon, from woolly socks to keep their feet warm in their Lapland adventure to a Heathrow hotel. Essentially people just choose options and give you money by paypal, but it still offers the same novelties as a gift list, and shows your guests that they’re really contributing to the luxury of your enjoyment, not giving money towards their own reception dinner.
I would definitely recommend a list based on one of these two.